Your Other Brothers: My New Blog

So, I just launched a new blog! With a lot of help from my friends. It’s called Your Other Brothers, and it’s a storytelling community for Christianity amid struggles with homosexuality. These last few years of writing more openly about faith and sexuality have introduced me to some of my dearest friends all over the world. I’m thrilled to partner with my spiritual brothers and help introduce them and our stories to you. We’ve had an interesting journey in friendship, to say […]

I Just Want My Dad to Want Me

I walk into work on Tuesday morning and look up at the group assignment board, and my heart drops. For the first time in two months, my name is not listed beneath the addicts’ group. I’ll be returning to the first group of boys I ever worked with here, but now that all these months have gone by, only one original kid remains. Will he even remember me? What will the seven others be like? And what about all those other teens I’ve […]

Gay Marriage and Me: The Post I Couldn’t Write

Last Friday. What a day. I got a flat tire that morning. I had an hour-long phone interview. I helped a friend move. I stuffed in some writing. It was hustle and bustle from sunup to sundown, and somewhere midway the Supreme Court legalized gay marriage in all fifty states. Oh. That was my first reaction. Just “oh.” I mean, gay marriage was already legal in 36 states. It was gonna happen eventually. What was 14 more in one fell swoop? But then I came home and saw all […]

7 Things Christians Should Do About Caitlyn Jenner

I already wrote about Bruce Jenner once, but his recent appearance on Vanity Fair has rocked the world and stirred another post within me. I feel like Christians everywhere are desperately searching for the proper Christian reaction to “Caitlyn Jenner,” or whatever he’s calling himself now. So, I racked my brain and came up with seven definitive actions you can take. You’re welcome, dear Christian. Here are 7 things Christians should do about Caitlyn Jenner.* 1. Don’t call her Caitlyn. Don’t even call her “her.” […]

I Don’t Get Bruce Jenner

I wrote about transgender people a little while back. In recent months I’ve felt God leading me toward greater empathy of transgenders. I still don’t fully understand the transgender experience, but then I’ll never truly grasp the straight experience or blind experience or Braves fan experience either. The more stories I hear, though, the more puzzle pieces slide into place. The more I see the humanity in transgender people, the more I see the humanity in all of us. There’s hardly a bigger name right now, transgender or otherwise, than […]

Racism & Homophobia & the Rise of Angsty Christians, Part 2

Last week, I wrote about racism and homophobia and the rise of angsty Christians. It’s such a heavy triad of topics, I realized I’d need two posts to say everything. And then Freddie Gray happened. And then the Supreme Court’s gay marriage hearings happened. And then more angsty Christians emerged, and I realized there probably aren’t enough posts in the world for me to say everything as eloquently and effectively as I’d like to say. But I’m going to try continuing […]

Racism & Homophobia & the Rise of Angsty Christians, Part 1

I’ve been burdened by this post for a while. I’ve used a mammoth road trip and a new start in Charlotte as excuses not to write it. Not to talk about it. All of it. I’m going to try today with the first of a two-part’er. The news is usually depressing, and thus I usually don’t comment on the news. Every now and then, though, I feel stirred to speak. I usually say something moderate that either resonates with fellow peacemakers or further […]

I Don’t Get Transgender People

I struggle with a lot of stuff. You might have heard. Some of my struggles have eased over time, and others remain . . . well, a struggle. I am a critical person. I don’t always show it, but I certainly think and feel it. I’ve been self-critical as long as I can remember. Tom, you’re unattractive and quiet and weird. Tom, you’re not a good writer. Tom, you’re a horrible friend. The cynical list goes on and on, but I’ll halt the brakes on the Self-Deprecating Express. […]